You've been on a few Tinder dates with a certain lucky person, and now you can't get them out of your head. To you, everything about them is perfect: their hair, their laugh... even the way they take their time ordering food and can't help but ask questions during movies. They're unapologetically themselves, and you love every bit of it. Your friends are apprehensive of your budding relationship, but they're obviously just jealous.
So maybe your friends are jealous, but you're also delusional. Don't worry—it happens to everyone. When we enter a new relationship, we put our love interests on pedestals. Our brain's reward system is activated, and our mirror neurons trigger a "love potion" of brain chemicals, including dopamine, testosterone, vasopressin, oxytocin, serotonin, and GABA. This magic mixture induces love, while our brains simultaneously suppress negative judgments, including wariness, suspicion, and discrimination. As neuroscience professor Dr. Lucy Brown explains to CNN, "When you're in a relationship, you're aware of the other person's flaws, but your brain is telling you it's OK to ignore them." But why? One word: reproduction. In order for our species to survive, we're hard-wired to become blindly enamored by new love so that we enter the attachment stage long enough to reproduce and raise children. We told you it was sexy.